Postnatal A-Z: A for Acceptance
Updated: Jun 7, 2020
Every day in June, I will be posting a postnatal A-Z, sharing little nuggets of information or wisdom that relate to mums who have recently had a baby. So stay tuned this month if you want to know more about everything from breathing to zzz.
First off is of course A which stands for ACCEPTING your body. I would like to take a moment to acknowledge how amazing a woman's body is for being able to conceive, grow a tiny human, give birth and nurture a newborn. Our society doesn't value mums enough and social media can give the impression that it's easy to go through pregnancy, give birth and 'bounce' back to our old self in a matter of days or weeks.
First of all, I don't believe there is such a thing as 'bouncing back'. Your body will be changed forever after you've given birth and that may be a good thing - you may start looking after it better or you may discover that you are much stronger than you ever gave yourself credit for. Emotionally and mentally, you will be changed forever once you become a mum. So rather than 'bouncing back', I think of it more as discovering a new you, accepting your body for what it's gone through and mindfully embarking on the roller coaster ride that is motherhood.
In my classes, I often tell mums to be patient: it took nine months for your body to adapt to the growing baby inside so allow it the same amount of time (or more) to recover afterwards. There may be things about your body that you don't like as much as before; in those moments, are you able to close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and still be grateful to your body for what it's capable of even though it may look different? Body acceptance doesn't come easily to many women, especially new mums, but the more we practise it the better we get at it. Baby steps 👶👶